Keeping the Body Language Clean

When reading one’s own body language, it’s important to not be too self absorbed – after all – others will read that!

The important thing to keep in mind is that not only will you read the language of others, but they will likewise read yours. This is no big deal as long as you are honest as the day is long – and that’s a good policy – but the truth is, we are so complicated we don’t always recognize when we are not being honest – with ourselves!

Before this begins to sound like I’m looking at a mirror with a mirror behind me and there are thousands of images that look like me – god forbid! – keep in mind – these ruminations are natural and – well – probably not that important.

One of the things the books on meditation will suggest is that whatever thoughts happen to run through your head – let them run! Don’t dwell on them, don’t entertain them as the last word on your existence, and don’t assume they are the truth.  More than likely, they are nothing more than the logical culmination of reasonable expressions. Meaning: only an idiot would not consider these thoughts as coming from somewhere outside the mind. \

The old adage: To thine own self be true – applies here.

This is no small trick. It can take decades, if not eons, to be true to oneself! Don’t beat yourself up over it – any improvement over a previous self-misconception – is an improvement! This can be known as the ‘let it go, Louis!’ factor.

I firmly believe that our “bullshit” factor (the things we hold on to that is irrational) is the result of ‘rational’ decisions made at one time or another in our lives. If it paid off then, it will pay off now. There’s nothing wrong with choosing to survive yesterday – but the same decision today may not be the right one. This is the one time our bodies might betray us – but it’s not from lack of thinking – its from lack of understanding – what helped us yesterday may not help us today.